Taking A Different View

One of the problems that we have with problems is that we are stuck in them. 

We are in the middle of what is going on and it can be difficult for us to get a perspective on what is going on for us. It's much easier to see other people problems because we are on the outside looking in, not the inside looking out. 

In this month's EFT Cafe you can learn a simple technique that will allow you to step back from a problem situation to give you a different perspective of yourself in that predicament and use that view to guide your tapping. 

Using this process takes you out of the problem and gives you a freedom to manoeuvre that is not possible using standard EFT.

If you are a Level 2 Practitioner of EFT then the EFT Cafe qualifies as 2 hours of CPD.

Tea or coffee (you choose) will be provided. 

This EFT Cafe will be on Wednesday March 14th from 7-9pm at St Oswald's Hospice, Gosforth Newcastle upon Tyne.  It costs just £10 

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If you have kids, grandchildren, nieces, nephews   or work with children then you are in for a special treat at the EFT Cafe meeting on Wednesday, December 14th.

Felicity James, mother, grandmother and ex-primary school teacher (who wishes she knew about EFT when she was still teaching) will be presenting EFT for Children, Grandchildren and Inner Children.

EFT is a surprisingly quick and effective tool for working with the fears and distresses of young children; helping them to calm down and feel a bit better – very useful  for the craziness of the Christmas Season.

Felicity will talk about and demonstrate her ways of using EFT with kids, including playful ways of tapping with them, as well as using toys as surrogates to help children -- deal with their every day upsets.

To attend this workshop you will need to know some basic EFT and bring along   a Teddy bear, doll or any stuffed toy big enough to tap on. - and don't forget to bring along your inner child as well.

Jelly babies (and a lot of fun) will be provided.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 14th December from 7pm-9pm, cost is just £10.

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In this month’s EFT Café we will be looking a flexible and more powerful alternative to affirmations – questions. Using EFT with questions can be a great way to direct your attention towards the things that you want without getting the ‘kickback’ (or tail-enders) associated with affirmations. Questions always direct your attention. You can’t help it, a question will send your mind off looking for an answer. Good questions send your mind off in useful directions, unhelpful questions send your mind off in less useful directions.

If you are always asking yourself: “What is wrong with me?”, or “How can I be so stupid?”, your brain will oblige you by going off and looking for reasons to back up those ideas.

If you ask yourself: “What do I want?”, or “What can I learn from this situation?” then your brain will oblige you by looking for the answers to those questions which will take you somewhere more useful.

Because you have a tendency to get what you focus on your questions can be a powerful ally in getting you where you want to go.

While using questions by themselves is a powerful tool for self-development. Using questions with tapping to take care of any resistance or blocks within the answer to the question can help you get where you want to go even more quickly.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will explore the use of different kinds of questions and EFT to get you going to where you want to be.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 9th November from 7pm-9pm, cost is just £10.
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Many years ago, famous psychologist, C G Jung proposed that we were forced by upbringing, or experience, to conceal important aspects of ourselves to get along with those around us.

Those aspects and capacities were hidden away in what he called The Shadow, the part of the psyche where all the disowned parts of ourselves are put away.

It's not just the negative aspects of ourselves we need to conceal, many of our positive possibilities were pushed into the shadow to get along with our care givers and friends.

As children we enter the world as little bundles of energy, noise and enthusiasm. As part of our socialisation process we learn that there are some things we can and can't feel.

For example, most children are often exuberant, excited and determined to speak, this can be troublesome to their parents in certain situations.

In an effort to make their children more acceptable to themselves and other people they restrict or even punish displays of enthusiasm and outspokenness. For the child feeling exited becomes a forbidden feeling, it's just not allowed and has to be suppressed.

Unfortunately for us many of the things we learn in childhood follows us into later life limiting our range of movement. Our old permissions are one of these limitations.

As an adult perhaps would like to feel more excited, enthusiastic and alive but for some reason it seems difficult - almost as if it wasn't allowed.

There may be many things your are 'not allowed' to do

• I'm not allowed to be enthusiastic
• I'm not allowed to say what I think
• I'm not allowed to be happy
• I'm not allowed ...

In February's EFT Cafe we will identify areas in permission has been denied to us and use a simple and quick tapping routine to release those old bonds and give us permission to think and feel as we wish.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday February 9th between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald's Hospice, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10. You need some experience of EFT to attend this event.

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Reflecting on the good things in our lives or cultivating a sense of gratitude is advice as old as the hills and the sages who lived in them. There is now good evidence that cultivating gratitude has a large number of mental (and physical) health benefits.

In one study more than 400 volunteers took part in the following exercise:

Three good things in life: Participants were asked to write down three things that went well that day and their causes every night for a week. In addition they were asked to provide a causal explanation for each thing.

After just one week of doing these exercises they were followed up for six months. Those who ‘counted their blessings’ in this way for just one week became happier and less depressed and stayed that way for at least six-months after the experiment.

In the first EFT Café of 2011 Andy Hunt how to use EFT to deepen your experience of gratitude. This workshop goes way beyond a simple gratitude list using EFT to tap into the deep good feelings that lie beneath the things you are grateful for.

The EFT Café meets on Wednesday January 4th between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne. The fee is just £10.

You will need some practical experience of EFT to attend this workshop. 

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Many years ago, famous psychologist, C G Jung proposed that we were forced by upbringing, or experience, to conceal important aspects of ourselves to get along with those around us.

Those aspects and capacities were hidden away in what he called The Shadow, the part of the psyche where all the disowned parts of ourselves are put away. He thought that we expended a lot of energy mistakenly fighting or suppressing the Shadow.

Although the Shadow contains what we were taught to be ashamed of or not allowed to express, these qualities correctly used can become a source of great power and strength to us. In fact they can be just what we need to deal with what life is presenting us.

One of the ways the  Shadow shows itself is through projection, which is judging the qualities that we have suppressed in ourselves but are displayed by others. This annoyance can tell us what resource we may have available to us if only we can get it.

In November’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will introduce you to Shadow Work with EFT so that you can use the tell tale signs of the Shadow to bring what has been hidden to light and transform it with EFT into a great resource

The November EFT Café is on Wednesday, November 10th from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10.

You will need some experience of EFT to attend this workshop

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Have you ever found yourself stuck on a project, something you would like to do but can't quite manage to get going, saying to yourself:

• I just can't get started
• I stop myself
• I can't allow myself to go forward
• I am lazy
• I ...

These are identity beliefs, strong ideas about who we are as a person and how we act in the world. They are very powerful ideas about ourselves they can be liberating or limiting.

In this month's EFT Cafe there is a double bill - learning how to use the Identity Relief process and then finding and using it on our blocks to success commonly know as procrastination or self sabotage.

In the first part of the evening event you will learn how to use the Identity relief process a new way of tapping to simply dissolve the powerful identity beliefs that hold us in place

The EFT Cafe will be at St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne on October 13th between 7pm and 9pm.

The cost is just £10

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