From problem to outcome in six steps

The Stepping Stones process is a six step procedure that takes you from a current problem to a future outcome using EFT and NLP based linguistic and timeline patterns.

It can be used with small, medium and large problems to give a route out of the problem and into a more useful outcome.

This process will be a useful addition to your tapping repetoire if:

• You don't know where to start when working with problems.
  
• You know how to soften a problem but are not sure where to go next
  
• You want a reliable step by step problem solving protocol to follow.
  

The stepping stone process is based on an NLP based strategy I developed  back in 2007 called Stress Relief In Six Paragraphs. Adding EFT to this process allows us to clear out the emotional charge from the problem and reduce the blocks to achieving the desired outcome. 

The Stepping Stones process is designed to put the problem firmly in the past and clear the way to achieving the desired outcome. 

This EFT Cafe will be suitable for anyone with some experience of EFT who wants to use EFT for coaching others or self-coaching. If you are a Level 2 Practitioner of EFT then the EFT Cafe qualifies as 2 hours of CPD.

Tea or coffee (you choose) will be provided. 

This EFT Cafe will be on Wednesday February 8th from 7-9pm at St Oswald's Hospice, Gosforth Newcastle upon Tyne.  It costs just £10 

We have to make decisions all the time. 

From the moment we awaken to the moment we fall asleep we have to decide what to do next.

Some decisions are easy: Which biscuit should I have with my cup of tea?

Some are much harder: Should I buy this house or that one? Should I take this job? Should I marry this man?

Sometimes there is a still clear voice that lets us know what to do. At other times that voice is drowned out by cacophony of contradictory thoughts, feelings and ideas.

In this month's EFT Cafe on January 11th Andy Hunt will guide you through a process developed by Gene Monterastelli to help you clear the static around making decisions and allow that still quiet voice to have it's say.

The session will be divided into three parts
1. Clearing resistance to change
2. Resolving the excess emotional anxiety around the choice
3. Resolving the emotional conflicts around getting the outcome you desire

This process wont be able to make the decision for you, but it will help you get clear about what you want to do.

Tea or coffee (you choose) will be provided. 

This first EFT Cafe of 2012 will be on Wednesday January 11th from 7-9pm at St Oswald's Hospice, Gosforth Newcastle upon Tyne.  It costs just £10 

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If you have kids, grandchildren, nieces, nephews   or work with children then you are in for a special treat at the EFT Cafe meeting on Wednesday, December 14th.

Felicity James, mother, grandmother and ex-primary school teacher (who wishes she knew about EFT when she was still teaching) will be presenting EFT for Children, Grandchildren and Inner Children.

EFT is a surprisingly quick and effective tool for working with the fears and distresses of young children; helping them to calm down and feel a bit better – very useful  for the craziness of the Christmas Season.

Felicity will talk about and demonstrate her ways of using EFT with kids, including playful ways of tapping with them, as well as using toys as surrogates to help children -- deal with their every day upsets.

To attend this workshop you will need to know some basic EFT and bring along   a Teddy bear, doll or any stuffed toy big enough to tap on. - and don't forget to bring along your inner child as well.

Jelly babies (and a lot of fun) will be provided.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 14th December from 7pm-9pm, cost is just £10.

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In this month’s EFT Café we will be looking a flexible and more powerful alternative to affirmations – questions. Using EFT with questions can be a great way to direct your attention towards the things that you want without getting the ‘kickback’ (or tail-enders) associated with affirmations. Questions always direct your attention. You can’t help it, a question will send your mind off looking for an answer. Good questions send your mind off in useful directions, unhelpful questions send your mind off in less useful directions.

If you are always asking yourself: “What is wrong with me?”, or “How can I be so stupid?”, your brain will oblige you by going off and looking for reasons to back up those ideas.

If you ask yourself: “What do I want?”, or “What can I learn from this situation?” then your brain will oblige you by looking for the answers to those questions which will take you somewhere more useful.

Because you have a tendency to get what you focus on your questions can be a powerful ally in getting you where you want to go.

While using questions by themselves is a powerful tool for self-development. Using questions with tapping to take care of any resistance or blocks within the answer to the question can help you get where you want to go even more quickly.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will explore the use of different kinds of questions and EFT to get you going to where you want to be.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 9th November from 7pm-9pm, cost is just £10.
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Should:
Verb:
1. Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticising someone's actions: "he should have been careful".
2. Indicating a desirable or expected state: "by now students should be able to read".

How many shoulds, musts, have-tos do you have in your life?
Are they helpful?

A should is an external expectation on your behaviour.

Shoulds abound: "He should tidy up his bedroom." "You should treat me with more respect." "I should get to work on this report."

Shoulds can come from others or ourselves as an 'encouragement' or 'demand' that we do something. However, you may have noticed that the things you should are often the hardest to get done even when you want to do them.

In this EFT Cafe will show you how to undo some of these old shoulds that are no longer working for us with things that we want to do and are motivated to do without the burden of the expectations of ourselves and others.

Shoulding can be a large part of procrastination so if you have a to-do list that is full of mysteriously unfinished items bring it along so that you can use the processes demonstrated to "unshould" the list and make it much more likely that you will complete it.

This EFT Café is on Weds 12th October from 7pm-9pm at St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne. The cost for this workshop is just £10.

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Have you ever had goals that you just can't quite get started on (or finish)? Goals or plans that should be easy to attain but somehow you just keep putting it off, or getting in your own way.

If so, you have met The Resistance - a collection of internal barriers or limiting beliefs that get in your way success.

Fortunately it is easy to work with limiting beliefs using EFT. Unfortunately they can be very difficult to spot. Like strong tidal currents they are often not visible on the surface but can work below the surface to drag you off course or even stop you in your tracks.

In the September EFT Café Andy Hunt will demonstrate a simple, two-part process for uncovering a wide range of limiting beliefs and show you how to use EFT to dissolve those beliefs once they have been found.

This EFT Café is on Thursday 15th September from 7pm-9pm at St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne. The cost for this workshop is just £10.

Please note: Because of a booking clash at the Hospice Teaching Centre we are running this EFT on Thursday night rather than the usual 2nd Wednesday of the month. The EFT Cafe will return to its usual Wednesday slot in October.

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In this month's EFT Cafe Andy Hunt will demonstrate a new approach he created for rapidly dissolving limiting beliefs.

The Belief Flip is a simple EFT process for neutralising many types of limiting beliefs quickly and easily.

One such limiting belief might be: “I will always be poor”.

In standard EFT you could use several approaches to soften or neutralise this belief:

• Persistent tapping on the belief statement to reduce the charge over time.
• Investigate the events that led up to the formation of this belief, neutralising each memory with the movie technique until the belief has collapsed.
• Use some clever reframing in your tapping to verbally loosen the belief’s hold.

The Belief Flip is a simple reframing pattern that you can use on many types of belief. It will typically neutralise the belief with just one or two rounds of tapping. It might take a little bit of effort to fully ‘get’ the pattern at first, but it is worth it.

This process works by stretching the limiting belief so far out of shape during the tapping that it can not come back into its original form. It works well with beliefs that involve permissions and black and white thinking.

Join Andy Hunt at 7pm on Wednesday 13th July at the EFT Cafe in St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle to learn how to use this simple process neutralise your limiting beliefs. (You will need some experience of EFT to participate in this event.)

The cost of this evening is just £10
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There is an old saying that most of our problems in life talk back.
- Brian Tracy

In an ideal world we would all get along just fine. People would be agreeable and reasonable, and we would be able to be resourceful and direct in our dealings with them.

Unfortunately, in the real world people can be very hard work to be with, or, to be more accurate, our reactions to these people can be very hard work.

Perhaps it is the way they look at us that sets us off, or the tone of their voice, or the way we think they think about us.

In the June EFT Cafe we will use a simple process to disconnect our unhelpful reactions to other people and develop a more resourceful and understanding way of being with them.

This process is useful in all aspects of daily life. dealing with our reactions to friends and family, coping with difficult colleagues, managers or subordinates, or just getting along better with people.

If you are a professional people helper: counsellor, coach, medical professional, teacher, therapist or social worker this process can be useful for working with difficult clients, patients or pupils.

Join Andy Hunt at 7pm on Wednesday 8th June at the EFT Cafe in St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle to learn how to use this simple process to deal with your reactions to difficult people. (You will need some experience of EFT to participate in this event.)

The cost of this evening is just £10
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One of the problems with problems is that we are often stuck in them.

There are often a whole complicated set of circumstances that make some sort of solution or different perspective very difficult for us to know what to do, or even where to start.

As someone once said: "If you are stuck in the jar it's difficult to read the label."

Fortunately there is a way for us to 'step out' of a problem long enough to bring some EFT to bear on what is going on. From the outside looking in it's possible to work on the feelings we are feeling in that situation, what other people are doing and how we are reacting and even on the situation itself which is quite different to using EFT from the inside of any difficulty.

There are several advantages to this approach:

• From the outside looking in you can get a much better perspective of what is going on.
• From a distance we can be less caught up in the difficulty and less distressed that we would be on the inside of the problem
• You can tap on many aspects of the problem not just the your part of it.
• It's simple, you don't need any special EFT skills or fancy wording, the approach uses straightforward awareness of the problem and tapping nothing fancy is required.

This approach is suitable for dealing with all sorts of everyday problems: sticky situations at work, difficult family relationships, and other uncomfortable predicaments.

Join Andy Hunt at 7pm on Wednesday 11th May at the EFT Cafe in St Oswald's Hospice Teaching Centre to learn how to use this simple process to deal with awkward situations. (You will need some experience of EFT to participate in this event.)

The cost of this evening is just £10
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Do you recognise these two predicaments?

1. You find a thousand ways of not starting an important task.
2. You start a task and find a thousand ways not to finish it.

As you try to make progress with your important goals you get the urge to do something else, anything else, to take you away from your tasks.

Suddenly sorting your socks, sharpening your pencils or tidying your desk becomes an essential necessity, much more important that what you are supposed to be doing.

If you recognise these scenarios you are familiar with ‘The Resistance’ the sometimes unconscious inclination to stop us from putting ourselves out there and getting things done.

In this EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt demonstrates a way of tackling the resistance using EFT and metaphor to soften that resistance so we can get on and do what is important.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th April from 7pm-9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth. The cost is just £10.
If you suddenly think that you need to sort your socks or sharpen your pencils on that day then this mini-workshop is for you.

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