EFT Cafe – 9th May 18 – Foursquare Tapping

Most of us want to be different.

We want what we don’t have and we have what we don’t and those two things seem a long way apart.

We feel like we have ‘bad’ qualities that we don’t like and want to get rid of and good qualities that we admire and want for ourselves.

We might feel lazy and want to be disciplined, selfish and want to be grateful, reserved and want to be more enthusiastic, but if we want to be more disciplined, grateful or enthusiastic why don’t we just do that?

What is holding us back and what can we do about it?

In this month’s EFT Cafe Andy Hunt introduces Foursquare tapping a process for exploring and changing the pros and cons of change.

The EFT Cafe is on from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education centre on Wednesday 9th May.

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EFT Cafe – 11th Apr 2018 – Tapping  Into More Control In Your Life

Humans have agency, we can make decisions and cause things to happen, in other words we can be ‘at cause’ in our lives.

Being at cause means we are resourceful, capable and able to act to influence our lives and we know that we are. We feel that we are able to influence the outcome of our lives.

On the other hand if we feel we are ‘at effect’ the world does things to us and we can’t change anything. Other people and circumstances control our lives, we might feel we have no agency and can’t influence what happens to us.

In this state of learned helplessness we feel powerless to change anything, we are a hostage to other people and circumstances.

Being at effect can show up in our language when people say things like this:

  • There is nothing I can do until they ….
  • My family run my life.
  • I have to wait until they …
  • etc

In this month’s EFT Cafe  Andy Hunt will demonstrate a tapping process that helps us reclaim our agency so we can exert more influence and control on our lives.

Read Tapping For More Freedom for an article based on this EFT Cafe


EFT Cafe – 14th Mar 2018 – Tapping Into Metaphor

We are built to think in metaphors.

If you are down in the dumps, as high as a kite, or at a crossroads in your life you are thinking in metaphors.

We understand the world and how it works through metaphor. We do this so easily and naturally that we barely notice it is happening.

Our metaphors of life, work, relationships and the world shape the way with think and feel.
In this week’s EFT Cafe join Andy Hunt to explore tapping with metaphors using a structured, step by step, tapping process.

​The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th March at 7pm at St Oswald’s Hospice from 7pm to 9pm.

EFT Cafe – 14th Feb 2018 – WOOPing & WOOTing

It’s an accepted part of the self-help culture in the West that visualising your success ‘attracts’ that success to you, making it more likely that you will achieve your goals.

Unfortunately that idea doesn’t stand up well to research. Many research studies have shown that people who just visualise their success are less likely to achieve their goes.

In ‘Rethinking Postive Thinking‘ Gabrielle Oettingen, who is responsible for a lot of the research on visualisation, shows that a simple change to the visualise your success approach can make a big improvement to your chances of success.

She calls her four step process WOOP:

  • Wish – what do you want to achieve.
  • Outcome – how will it make you feel when you achieve it.
  • Obstacle – what obstacles will get in your way
  • Plan – what plan can you make to deal with those obstacles.

It’s a very simple process (you can find out more on woopmylife.org) hat I’ve been experimenting with.

One of the things I’ve noticed is that the Obstacles are often limiting beliefs – these limiting beliefs are amenable to tapping – which leads to WOOT:

  • Wish  – what do you want to achieve
  • Outcome – how would fulfilling that wish make you feel when you get it.
  • Obstactle – may be a limiting belief
  • Tapping – resolving the limiting belief

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe to explore WOOPing and WOOTing on Wednesday 14th February at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre from 7pm-9pm.

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EFT Cafe – 10th Jan 2018 – Getting The Most Out Of Your SUDs!

A fundamental part of EFT/Tapping is scaling emotional distress.When we are working on a painful feeling or limiting belief we ourselves or our clients:

  • How bad does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?
  • How true does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?

The number they give us are known as the SUDs or Subjective Units of Distress. Then we tap on the meridian points to reduce the strength of the emotional distress using the SUDs to measure our progress.

In an ideal world just one round of tapping would dissolve the emotional distress and we’d feel completely better, but in the real world things are not so straightforward, some feelings make take several, or even many, rounds of tapping.

Most of the time we just use the SUDs score to track our progress, but what if we could use the SUDs score to help us make our tapping more specific and more effective?

Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe on Wednesday 10th January 2018 to find out how.

EFT Cafe – 13 Dec 2017 – Two Antidotes To Festive Frazzle

Christmas can be a stressful time for many people.

It is often an obstacle course of obligations, expectations and predicaments that seem to be designed to end peace on earth and drain anyone of their goodwill.

But Christmas is not the problem, how we cope with Christmas is the problem, and that is something we work with.

This month’s EFT Cafe is about two tapping techniques designed to defuse festive stresses and strains before they’ve even happened and put some of the peace, goodwill and festive spirit back into your Christmas experience.

Important: Even though these processes are being applied to the holiday season, these techniques are not just for Christmas they’re for life!

This EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th December 2017 from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.

EFT Cafe – 8th Nov 2017 – The Motivation Ladder

Most of us would like to be more motivated to get things done and achieve our goals.

Unfortunately, wanting to be motivated and being motivated can seem like two very different things.

If you want to be motivated but struggle to get motivated then there are probably some blocks (aka limiting beliefs) getting in the way of your motivation.

The ‘Motivation Ladder’ is a step by step process based on a idea from Steve Wells that you can use to identify and undo some of those blocks so it’s easier to work towards your goals.

If you are attending please bring some goals that need some more motivation with you.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 8th November 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

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EFT Cafe – 11th October 2017 – Changing By Changing Your Feelings About Your Feelings.

Humans are complicated (you may have noticed), not only do we have feelings about our circumstances we can have feelings (and thoughts) about our feelings.

If you are resigned to your sadness, anxious about your anxiety or angry at your weakness, etc then the feelings you have are going to be harder deal with.

These ‘meta-emotions’ can keep us stuck in unhelpful and uncomfortable emotional states.

If you feel kind towards your sadness you will have a very different experience that if you feel defeated by it.

Most of the time we just notice how we feel about something, not how we feel (and think) about feeling something, but being able to identify and work with the thoughts and feelings about our feelings can make a big difference to our emotional lives. Changing how we feel about our feelings changes the quality of our experience

In this month’s EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt will present a variety of ways of working with feelings about feelings.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th October 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10


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EFT Café – 13th September 2017 – The Paradoxical Choices Method

If you are familiar with EFT/Tapping you probably know about ‘The Choices Method’ developed by Pat Carrington as a skilful means to bring positive emotions into tapping processes.

In the Choices Method elegantly shifts the tapper from an unhelpful state into something much more positive.

The shift from the negative to the positive is achieved by tapping using the phrase “I choose to [some positive feeling or outcome]” to help access their innate resources.

However if the tapper can choose to feel good, doesn’t that imply that they may have chosen to feel bad in the first place?

Loosely based on the work of NLP Trainer Kevin Creedon and William Glasser M.D. creator of Choice Theory, September’s EFT Cafe is about using the idea that we choose our emotional state (good or bad) to help us let go of the feelings that are troubling us.

Find out about The Paradoxical Choices Method in this month’s EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th September 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

EFT Café – 14th June 2017 – Tapping in The 3rd Person For Better Self Help

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You probably know that EFT/Tapping is a great technique for working with emotional distress and personal difficulties.

However, sometimes it can be tricky to use as a self-help technique because we are in the middle of what we are tapping on.

When we are on the inside of the problem we may be affected by the emotions of the problem itself and it’s hard to have a clear perspective on the problem when you are in it.

It’s hard to read the label when you are inside the jar.

This is why working with another person can be so helpful. They are on the outside of our distress – they don’t feel it and they can sometimes see what is going on more clearly.

But there is never another tapper around when you need one!

What if you could take a more dispassionate perspective when you are working on your own stuff?

What if you could more easily see what needs to be done and more easily work with it?
3rd Person tapping helps you do just that. By asking surprisingly simple questions we can work with ourselves as if we were someone else and gain a little bit of extra distance and perspective to help our tapping do the work it needs to do.

Find out about 3rd Person Tapping in this month’s EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th June 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10

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