EFT: Problem Relief From The Outside In

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One of the problems with problems is that we are often stuck in them.

There are often a whole complicated set of circumstances that make some sort of solution or different perspective very difficult for us to know what to do, or even where to start.

As someone once said: “If you are stuck in the jar it’s difficult to read the label.”

Fortunately there is a way for us to ‘step out’ of a problem long enough to bring some EFT to bear on what is going on. From the outside looking in it’s possible to work on the feelings we are feeling in that situation, what other people are doing and how we are reacting and even on the situation itself which is quite different to using EFT from the inside of any difficulty.

There are several advantages to this approach:

  • From the outside looking in you can get a much better perspective of what is going on.
  • From a distance we can be less caught up in the difficulty and less distressed that we would be on the inside of the problem
  • You can tap on many aspects of the problem not just the your part of it.
  • It’s simple, you don’t need any special EFT skills or fancy wording, the approach uses straightforward awareness of the problem and tapping nothing fancy is required.

This approach is suitable for dealing with all sorts of everyday problems: sticky situations at work, difficult family relationships, and other uncomfortable predicaments.

Join Andy Hunt at 7pm on Wednesday 11th May at the EFT Cafe in St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre to learn how to use this simple process to deal with awkward situations. (You will need some experience of EFT to participate in this event.)

The cost of this evening is just £10
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EFT Cafe – April 13th – Working With The Resistance

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Do you recognise these two predicaments?

  1. You find a thousand ways of not starting an important task.
  2. You start a task and find a thousand ways not to finish it.

As you try to make progress with your important goals you get the urge to do something else, anything else, to take you away from your tasks.

Suddenly sorting your socks, sharpening your pencils or tidying your desk becomes an essential necessity, much more important that what you are supposed to be doing.

If you recognise these scenarios you are familiar with ‘The Resistance’ the sometimes unconscious inclination to stop us from putting ourselves out there and getting things done.

In this EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt demonstrates a way of tackling the resistance using EFT and metaphor to soften that resistance so we can get on and do what is important.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th April from 7pm-9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth. The cost is just £10.
If you suddenly think that you need to sort your socks or sharpen your pencils on that day then this mini-workshop is for you.

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Reforming Your Inner Critic – March 9th

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Do you recognise yourself in any of these statements?

  1. I wake up at night worried about the mistakes that I made the day before.
  2. I replay conversations after I’ve had them to see what I’ve done wrong.
  3. When I’m with other people, I wonder if they’re critical of me. 
  4. I’m afraid that there’s something basically wrong with me. 
  5. I wonder what other people would think of me if they really knew what I was like underneath. 

If you do, then you probably have a well developed inner critic at work.

In this month’s EFT Café,  Andy Hunt will show you how to use a new EFT based technique to soften your inner critic. He will guide you step by step through a process that uses imagination, metaphor and tapping to reform an inner critic so it can either retire or become a supportive advisor.

The process is quite simple but requires a good understanding of EFT, you will need to have completed at least an EFT Level 1 training to attend this event.

Unlike most other EFT Cafes you must register for this event there are only 12 places available. Please contact me using the form on the front page to book your place.

This workshop is on March 9th, 2011 at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle. It costs just £10

Important: If you answered a definite yes to all of the above it is possible that you have a very strong inner critic which may seriously impact on your life. This two hour workshop is not intended as a substitute for personal therapy. Please take responsibility for your own well-being and use your own judgement when attending. If you would like to see my privately to work on these issues please get in touch.


Getting Permission To Be Who You Want To Be

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Many years ago, famous psychologist, C G Jung proposed that we were forced by upbringing, or experience, to conceal important aspects of ourselves to get along with those around us.

Those aspects and capacities were hidden away in what he called The Shadow, the part of the psyche where all the disowned parts of ourselves are put away.

It’s not just the negative aspects of ourselves we need to conceal, many of our positive possibilities were pushed into the shadow to get along with our care givers and friends.

As children we enter the world as little bundles of energy, noise and enthusiasm. As part of our socialisation process we learn that there are some things we can and can’t feel.

For example, most children are often exuberant, excited and determined to speak, this can be troublesome to their parents in certain situations.

In an effort to make their children more acceptable to themselves and other people they restrict or even punish displays of enthusiasm and outspokenness. For the child feeling exited becomes a forbidden feeling, it’s just not allowed and has to be suppressed.

Unfortunately for us many of the things we learn in childhood follows us into later life limiting our range of movement. Our old permissions are one of these limitations.

As an adult perhaps would like to feel more excited, enthusiastic and alive but for some reason it seems difficult – almost as if it wasn’t allowed.

There may be many things your are ‘not allowed’ to do

  • I’m not allowed to be enthusiastic
  • I’m not allowed to say what I think
  • I’m not allowed to be happy
  • I’m not allowed …

In February’s EFT Cafe we will identify areas in permission has been denied to us and use a simple and quick tapping routine to release those old bonds and give us permission to think and feel as we wish.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday February 9th between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10. You need some experience of EFT to attend this event.

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Gratitude Tapping

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Reflecting on the good things in our lives or cultivating a sense of gratitude is advice as old as the hills and the sages who lived in them. There is now good evidence that cultivating gratitude has a large number of mental (and physical) health benefits.

In one study more than 400 volunteers took part in the following exercise:

Three good things in life: Participants were asked to write down three things that went well that day and their causes every night for a week. In addition they were asked to provide a causal explanation for each thing.

After just one week of doing these exercises they were followed up for six months. Those who ‘counted their blessings’ in this way for just one week became happier and less depressed and stayed that way for at least six-months after the experiment.

In the first EFT Café of 2011 Andy Hunt how to use EFT to deepen your experience of gratitude. This workshop goes way beyond a simple gratitude list using EFT to tap into the deep good feelings that lie beneath the things you are grateful for.

The EFT Café meets on Wednesday January 4th between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne. The fee is just £10.

You will need some practical experience of EFT to attend this workshop. 

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Tapping Into Your Shadow

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Many years ago, famous psychologist, C G Jung proposed that we were forced by upbringing, or experience, to conceal important aspects of ourselves to get along with those around us.

Those aspects and capacities were hidden away in what he called The Shadow, the part of the psyche where all the disowned parts of ourselves are put away. He thought that we expended a lot of energy mistakenly fighting or suppressing the Shadow.

Although the Shadow contains what we were taught to be ashamed of or not allowed to express, these qualities correctly used can become a source of great power and strength to us. In fact they can be just what we need to deal with what life is presenting us.

One of the ways the  Shadow shows itself is through projection, which is judging the qualities that we have suppressed in ourselves but are displayed by others. This annoyance can tell us what resource we may have available to us if only we can get it.

In November’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will introduce you to Shadow Work with EFT so that you can use the tell tale signs of the Shadow to bring what has been hidden to light and transform it with EFT into a great resource

The November EFT Café is on Wednesday, November 10th from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10.

You will need some experience of EFT to attend this workshop

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Identity Relief From Procrastination – October 13th

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Have you ever found yourself stuck on a project, something you would like to do but can’t quite manage to get going, saying to yourself:

  • I just can’t get started
  • I stop myself
  • I can’t allow myself to go forward
  • I am lazy
  • I …

These are identity beliefs, strong ideas about who we are as a person and how we act in the world. They are very powerful ideas about ourselves they can be liberating or limiting.

In this month’s EFT Cafe there is a double bill – learning how to use the Identity Relief process and then finding and using it on our blocks to success commonly know as procrastination or self sabotage.

In the first part of the evening event you will learn how to use the Identity relief process a new way of tapping to simply dissolve the powerful identity beliefs that hold us in place

The EFT Cafe will be at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne on October 13th between 7pm and 9pm.

The cost is just £10

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Irritation Tapping – September 8th 2010

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We all have things that irritate us, people do things that get on our nerves or rub us up the wrong way in some way or another. In this EFT Café we will explore ‘Irritation Tapping’ process developed by Steve Wells as a way of using these irritations as guidelines for us to develop ourselves (and reduce the effect of the irritations).

The EFT Cafe will be at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne on September 8th between 7pm and 9pm.

The cost is just £10