EFT Cafe – Oct 12th – Are You Shoulding On Yourself?


1. Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticising someone’s actions: “he should have been careful”.
2. Indicating a desirable or expected state: “by now students should be able to read”.

How many shoulds, musts, have-tos do you have in your life?
Are they helpful?

A should is an external expectation on your behaviour.

Shoulds abound: “He should tidy up his bedroom.” “You should treat me with more respect.” “I should get to work on this report.”

Shoulds can come from others or ourselves as an ‘encouragement’ or ‘demand’ that we do something. However, you may have noticed that the things you should are often the hardest to get done even when you want to do them.

In this EFT Cafe will show you how to undo some of these old shoulds that are no longer working for us with things that we want to do and are motivated to do without the burden of the expectations of ourselves and others.

Shoulding can be a large part of procrastination so if you have a to-do list that is full of mysteriously unfinished items bring it along so that you can use the processes demonstrated to “unshould” the list and make it much more likely that you will complete it.

This EFT Café is on Weds 12th October from 7pm-9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne. The cost for this workshop is just £10.

Image courtesy of Linda H