If you are down in the dumps, as high as a kite, or at a crossroads in your life you are thinking in metaphors.
We understand the world and how it works through metaphor. We do this so easily and naturally that we barely notice it is happening.
Our metaphors of life, work, relationships and the world shape the way with think and feel.
In this week’s EFT Cafe join Andy Hunt to explore tapping with metaphors using a structured, step by step, tapping process.
The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th March at 7pm at St Oswald’s Hospice from 7pm to 9pm.
It’s an accepted part of the self-help culture in the West that visualising your success ‘attracts’ that success to you, making it more likely that you will achieve your goals.
Unfortunately that idea doesn’t stand up well to research. Many research studies have shown that people who just visualise their success are less likely to achieve their goes.
In ‘Rethinking Postive Thinking‘ Gabrielle Oettingen, who is responsible for a lot of the research on visualisation, shows that a simple change to the visualise your success approach can make a big improvement to your chances of success.
She calls her four step process WOOP:
Wish – what do you want to achieve.
Outcome – how will it make you feel when you achieve it.
Obstacle – what obstacles will get in your way
Plan – what plan can you make to deal with those obstacles.
It’s a very simple process (you can find out more on woopmylife.org) hat I’ve been experimenting with.
One of the things I’ve noticed is that the Obstacles are often limiting beliefs – these limiting beliefs are amenable to tapping – which leads to WOOT:
Wish – what do you want to achieve
Outcome – how would fulfilling that wish make you feel when you get it.
Obstactle – may be a limiting belief
Tapping – resolving the limiting belief
Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe to explore WOOPing and WOOTing on Wednesday 14th February at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre from 7pm-9pm.
A fundamental part of EFT/Tapping is scaling emotional distress.When we are working on a painful feeling or limiting belief we ourselves or our clients:
How bad does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?
How true does ‘it’ feel on a scale of 0 to 10?
The number they give us are known as the SUDs or Subjective Units of Distress. Then we tap on the meridian points to reduce the strength of the emotional distress using the SUDs to measure our progress.
In an ideal world just one round of tapping would dissolve the emotional distress and we’d feel completely better, but in the real world things are not so straightforward, some feelings make take several, or even many, rounds of tapping.
Most of the time we just use the SUDs score to track our progress, but what if we could use the SUDs score to help us make our tapping more specific and more effective?
Join Andy Hunt at the EFT Cafe on Wednesday 10th January 2018 to find out how.
Christmas can be a stressful time for many people.
It is often an obstacle course of obligations, expectations and predicaments that seem to be designed to end peace on earth and drain anyone of their goodwill.
But Christmas is not the problem, how we cope with Christmas is the problem, and that is something we work with.
This month’s EFT Cafe is about two tapping techniques designed to defuse festive stresses and strains before they’ve even happened and put some of the peace, goodwill and festive spirit back into your Christmas experience.
Important: Even though these processes are being applied to the holiday season, these techniques are not just for Christmas they’re for life!
This EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th December 2017 from 7pm – 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne.
Humans are complicated (you may have noticed), not only do we have feelings about our circumstances we can have feelings (and thoughts) about our feelings.
If you are resigned to your sadness, anxious about your anxiety or angry at your weakness, etc then the feelings you have are going to be harder deal with.
These ‘meta-emotions’ can keep us stuck in unhelpful and uncomfortable emotional states.
If you feel kind towards your sadness you will have a very different experience that if you feel defeated by it.
Most of the time we just notice how we feel about something, not how we feel (and think) about feeling something, but being able to identify and work with the thoughts and feelings about our feelings can make a big difference to our emotional lives. Changing how we feel about our feelings changes the quality of our experience
In this month’s EFT Cafe, Andy Hunt will present a variety of ways of working with feelings about feelings.
The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 11th October 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
If you are familiar with EFT/Tapping you probably know about ‘The Choices Method’ developed by Pat Carrington as a skilful means to bring positive emotions into tapping processes.
In the Choices Method elegantly shifts the tapper from an unhelpful state into something much more positive.
The shift from the negative to the positive is achieved by tapping using the phrase “I choose to [some positive feeling or outcome]” to help access their innate resources.
However if the tapper can choose to feel good, doesn’t that imply that they may have chosen to feel bad in the first place?
Loosely based on the work of NLP Trainer Kevin Creedon and William Glasser M.D. creator of Choice Theory, September’s EFT Cafe is about using the idea that we choose our emotional state (good or bad) to help us let go of the feelings that are troubling us.
Find out about The Paradoxical Choices Method in this month’s EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th September 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
You probably know that EFT/Tapping is a great technique for working with emotional distress and personal difficulties.
However, sometimes it can be tricky to use as a self-help technique because we are in the middle of what we are tapping on.
When we are on the inside of the problem we may be affected by the emotions of the problem itself and it’s hard to have a clear perspective on the problem when you are in it.
It’s hard to read the label when you are inside the jar.
This is why working with another person can be so helpful. They are on the outside of our distress – they don’t feel it and they can sometimes see what is going on more clearly.
But there is never another tapper around when you need one!
What if you could take a more dispassionate perspective when you are working on your own stuff?
What if you could more easily see what needs to be done and more easily work with it?
3rd Person tapping helps you do just that. By asking surprisingly simple questions we can work with ourselves as if we were someone else and gain a little bit of extra distance and perspective to help our tapping do the work it needs to do.
Find out about 3rd Person Tapping in this month’s EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 14th June 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
It’s easy to think of problems, aggravations and blocks as single things – a blob of ‘negative’ emotion that just needs to be tapped away.
But most of our annoyances and hindrances are more complicated than that.
What, on the face of it, seems to be solid ‘things’ are more often multi-step processes that get us where we don’t want to be.
This is why general tapping on an annoyance or hindrance can be be slow and difficult, we need a way to be more specific to allow tapping into the mechanism to disrupt it.
In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will present (with the help of some post it notes) Process Mapping, a step by step way of unpacking annoyances and hindrances that make it easier to direct our tapping to the heart of the problem and make better progress
The EFT Café is on Wednesday 10th May 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10
From the moment we awaken to the moment we fall asleep we have to decide what to do next.
Some decisions are easy: Which biscuit should I have with my cup of tea?
Some are much harder: Should I buy this house or that one? Should I take this job? Should I marry this man?
Sometimes there is a still clear voice that lets us know what to do. At other times that voice is drowned out by cacophony of contradictory thoughts, feelings and ideas.
In this month’s EFT Café on Andy Hunt will guide you through a process based on an idea by Gene Monterastelli to help you clear the static around making decisions and allow that still quiet voice to have it’s say.
This process wont be able to make the decision for you, but it will help you get clear about what you want to do.
The EFT Café is on Wednesday 12th April 2017 at St Oswald’s Hospice Education Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm to 9pm and costs just £10