EFT Café – July 9th – How Not To Take Things Personally

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Stuff happens to us all the time.

Accidents happen, people say unkind words or make mistakes.

Sometimes it is not enough that such difficulties occur, we feel obliged to take them personally as if the “perpetrators” were doing it deliberately to spoil our day.

Not only do we get the discomfort of the experience we can also go into an uncomfortable state of mind where:

  • We think: “They did it to me, and they did it deliberately” regardless of the truth of the matter.
  • We can go round and round in our own heads rehearsing the rights and wrongs of the situation (feeling bad about it the whole time).
  • We make assumptions about what the other person was thinking, what their motivations were (usually bad) and feel bad without really knowing what was going on.

In general taking things personally hurts.

In this month’s EFT Café  Andy Hunt will take you through a process to take the ouch of what happened and to defuse all the other unpleasant emotional baggage that comes with taking it personally.

This process won’t interfere with your own moral judgement about the rights and wrongs of the situation but it will help you take the distress out of that situation.

The EFT Café is on from 7pm to 9pm and costs £10 (tea and biscuits supplied).



EFT Café – July 9th – How Not To Take Things Personally

PictureImage courtesy of Hartwig HKD

Stuff happens to us all the time.

Accidents happen, people say unkind words or make mistakes.

Sometimes it is not enough that such difficulties occur, we feel obliged to take them personally as if the “perpetrators” were doing it deliberately to spoil our day.

Not only do we get the discomfort of the experience we can also go into an uncomfortable state of mind where:

  • We think: “They did it to me, and they did it deliberately” regardless of the truth of the matter.
  • We can go round and round in our own heads rehearsing the rights and wrongs of the situation (feeling bad about it the whole time).
  • We make assumptions about what the other person was thinking, what their motivations were (usually bad) and feel bad without really knowing what was going on.

In general taking things personally hurts.

In this month’s EFT Café  Andy Hunt will take you through a process to take the ouch of what happened and to defuse all the other unpleasant emotional baggage that comes with taking it personally.

This process won’t interfere with your own moral judgement about the rights and wrongs of the situation but it will help you take the distress out of that situation.

The EFT Café is on from 7pm to 9pm and costs £10 (tea and biscuits supplied).



EFT Café – june 11th – How To Tap Into More Patience

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Life is challenging.

We all have so many things to do, places to go, people to see and there is not a moment to loose … and then – the world gets in the way.

Then we find ourselves in a long slow queue of traffic or the person we have to talk to is taking an age to get to the point, or we need to finish a task and someone else is dragging their feet.

With so much to do and so many obstacles that it’s easy to get impatient; to seethe at the inefficiency of the world and the incompetence of the people around us.

Impatience seems like the obvious response: if I grind my teeth, or curse, enough then everyone will get out of my way or help me on time – you can even be impatient with yourself.  

Unfortunately while being impatient is good for increasing your stress levels, it is not so good for getting things done.

If we could be more patient we would have much less stress and probably a better chance of getting things done.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will show you how to use tapping to help you be more patient through the inevitable difficulties of life.

So that you can be more calm, collected and able get things done without being driven insane by the world’s attempts to slow you down or get in your way.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday June 11th, 2014 at 7pm in St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle.


EFT Café – May 14 – reconnecting To Our Enthusiasm

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When you look at young children you can see that they are enthusiastic about being alive. They are naturally excited about life and are happy to let you know it.

We all started off with that level of enthusiasm, however as time passes our ability to connect with and express our excitement and enthusiasm can diminish.

Our ability to connect with what is enjoyable may have been reduced by our parents, friends and culture.

Our enthusiasm may have been trained out of us: squashed by criticism or shame.

Perhaps we were told:

  • “Don’t stand out”
  • “Don’t be too much”
  • “Don’t show us up”
  • “Calm down! What will other people think?”
  • etc

As adults we can find ourselves disconnected from, or anxious about, our enthusiasm and passions in life, our experience can seem bland and uninteresting.

This month’s EFT Café is all about undoing some of the blocks that hold us back from feeling the good things in life to the full.

As someone who is British and was “born to be mild” I’m especially looking forward to this particular EFT Café.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday May 14th at 7pm in St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle.



EFT Café – April 9th – Mindfulness And EFT

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Mindfulness and mindfulness meditation, is getting lot of attention in science and the media. It is being extensively researched and promoted as a beneficial well-being practice.

People who practice mindfulness meditation experience:

  • less depression
  • pain relief
  • stress reduction
  • greater focus
  • and more

Mindfulness involves training your attention to stay in one place and attend to the process of experience. This is simple, but not easy, the human mind has a tendency to jump from place to place which can make staying in one place quite challenging.

EFT can be used to help mindfulness to by making it easier to maintain attention and easier to process whatever comes into attention.

Join Andy Hunt on Wednesday 9th April to learn a simple mindfulness meditation technique and apply EFT to work on the blocks and distractions to meditating.

You don’t need any previous experience of mindfulness meditation to attend this course, however it is useful if you have experience of EFT.

The EFT Café is on from 7pm to 9pm and costs £10 (tea and biscuits supplied).


EFT Café – Mar 12th – How To Say Yes to Life

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Are you saying no some parts of your life?

Resisting what is actually going on in the hope that saying no to it will change it for the better.

You may have noticed that resisting the reality of your situations can be quite tiring.

Paradoxically, saying yes to that same experience may help you have more peace around it and greater energy to change it.

Saying yes to some parts of your life – a condition, relationship, situation, yourself – does not mean that you like it. You can say yes to pain, disappointment, sorrow, to the things about our lives that we are not enjoying.

At some level you may also find yourself saying no to the things that you want, as a way of avoiding the discomfort that change can bring.

Saying yes to your experience means that you accept the facts as they are and you are not resisting what is happening, even if you are working hard to change your situation.

Acceptance of the situation will usually bring more peace and give you more energy to make the changes you want to make.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will show you how to use EFT to help you say yes to your experience so that you can be more at peace in your life and have more energy to make the changes you want to.

The EFT Café  is on Wednesday March 12th, 2014 at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm – 9pm. The cost is £10.

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EFT Café – Feb 12th – How To Forgive Yourself

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Everyone makes mistakes

On the one hand it’s important to acknowledge our mistakes and learn from them, but, on the other, many of us go so much further than that.

Many people spend lots time beating themselves up about what they have done (or failed to do). They are much more self critical than is helpful to them or others.

February’s EFT Café is all about forgiving yourself. Learning how to learn from the mistakes of the past, then let them go (that’s the hard part).

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday February 12th, 2014 at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm – 9pm. The cost is £10.


EFT Café – Jan 8th, 2014 – How To Be For Yourself

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It’s an incredible opportunity to have a life.

You are the only person to have been born into your life, you will occupy it only for as long as it lasts. It’s yours alone, to make what you will of it.

To make the most of that opportunity we need to have an inner orientation that treats our life as if it matters.

To make the most of this ‘one wild and precious life’ we need motivation, to be fully on our own side, pursuing our own best interests (with wisdom and concern for the wellbeing of others).

However, we may find that our motivation to be ‘for’ ourselves: our assertiveness, self-expression, ambition, self-care and aspirations is blocked. (If you are starting to feel anxious just reading about your own assertiveness, self-expression, ambition and aspiration, then you are probably experiencing some of these blocks).

This month’s EFT Cafe is all about connecting to a deeper sense of being for yourself, loosening the blocks that get in your way, and giving yourself the support, loyalty, determination and power you deserve.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday January 8th, 2014 at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Newcastle upon Tyne from 7pm – 9pm. The cost is £10.


EFT Café – Dec 11th, 2013 – Tapping Into Gratitude

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The practice and “attitude of gratitude” has been extolled by many religious traditions down the ages.

Now research is revealing that gratitude is not just a good thing, it is a thing that is good for you.

Some of the benefits of gratitude:

  • Practicing gratitude has proven to be one of the most reliable methods for increasing happiness and life satisfaction; it also boosts feelings of optimism, joy, pleasure, enthusiasm, and other positive emotions.
  • Gratitude reduces anxiety and depression.
  • Gratitude is good for our bodies: Studies suggest gratitude strengthens the immune system, lowers blood pressure, reduces symptoms of illness, and makes us less bothered by aches and pains. It also encourages us to exercise more and take better care of our health.
  • Grateful people sleep better: They get more hours of sleep each night, spend less time awake before falling asleep, and feel more refreshed upon awakening. If you want to sleep more soundly, count blessings, not sheep.
  • Gratitude makes us more resilient.
  • It strengthens relationships: It makes us feel closer and more committed to friends and romantic partners.
  • Gratitude promotes forgiveness.
  •  Grateful people are more helpful, altruistic, and compassionate.

In this month’s EFT Café (just in time for the season of giving and receiving) Andy Hunt will demonstrate ways of using EFT to boost your abilities to feel and express gratitude and to neutralise some of the blocks that may get in the way of feeling grateful.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 11th December between 7pm and 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.


EFT Café – November 13th – Tapping & Timelines

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This month’s EFT Cafe is about combining EFT/Tapping with the concept of timelines from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to give you a simple and powerful way to prepare to be at your best for upcoming events.

If you have to attend an interview, make a visit to the dentist, speak at a presentation at work, have a tricky conversations at home, get through Christmas with your sanity intact or go though any other potentially challenging situation, this process will help you be at your best.

By harnessing tapping and the power of your unconscious mind you can prepare for what you have to do in a simple and powerful way. You don’t need to have any experience of NLP to attend this workshop but you do need to have some experience of EFT.

The EFT Cafe is on Wednesday 13th November at St Oswald’s Hospice Training Centre, Gosforth between 7pm & 9pm and costs just £10.